How To Ask For A Blowjob?

Ask, and it will be given to you. Or so the saying goes.

But asking for a blowjob is a whole different ball game that demands some tact and finesse. You can’t just shove your dick down your partner’s throat (well, you can, but that’ll be rude).

So, let’s look at some tips on how to ask for a blowjob.

Some Pointers Before Asking For A Blowjob

• It’s so easy to sound like a creep when asking a girl or guy for a blowjob. The idea is to ease into it by first treating them right in the relationship, then you can ask politely or use dirty talk.
• Take good care of your penis, bro. Hygiene matters a lot when it comes to receiving a blow job. I mean, she’ll be using her mouth on your peeing tool. It shouldn’t smell or taste bad. You can even employ some flavored lube or put some perfume on.
• She may be new to giving head or her previous experiences were terrible. In these cases, make her less worried about performance and let her know you don’t care if she’s an expert or a novice. You just want to have fun, and she can always learn to give better blowjobs starting with you.
• If someone refuses to give you a BJ, ask them why. Some girls and guys just don’t like it, so respect their sexual preferences and don’t guilt or pressure them. Instead, decide on something fun you can do together. Try blowjob toys or check out our article on how to simulate a blowjob.
• Reciprocity plays a huge role here. Before she eats your banana, have you feasted on her grapefruit? (For my gaybos reading this, you should be willing to suck him off if you’re trying to get him to do the same.)

8 Ways To Ask A Girl To Give You Head

#1. Be Straightforward

Sounds simple, and it works wonders depending on where you are in your relationship and how open your communication is.

Being direct with what you want helps skip the mind games and awkwardness, but you should do it with confidence and respect.

You want to discuss this earlier in a separate conversation before you even start having sex. A healthy relationship calls for discussing your sexual preferences and desires, so just tell her you want some downtown fun.

#2. Transition From Foreplay

Even if you’ve never chatted about your preferences before, foreplay is a great way to get your partner to suck you off. Start by making out, kissing her neck, sucking her nipples, and doing anything that turns her on.

Once she’s wet and ready to go, simply ask her to kiss your dick and play with it. You want to get her in the mood before asking, as her answer will depend on how turned on she is.

You can also just drop your pants and show her your hard-rock cock without making a move. Don’t push her head, though; let her go down by herself.

#3. Make It A Trade

Blowjobs can be a form of power play. After all, it’s often a selfless act on her part.

One way to ask and get approval is to make it a trade; you get a blowjob, and she gets something in return. It may be pussy-eating, extended foreplay, or something entirely different.

Many females hold back on their men to have all the cards during sex and will only blow you if you give them what they want.

It may even be buying her a cute little dress, taking her out to a fancy restaurant, or anything along those lines.

#4. Please Her First

Following my last point, sometimes, all you have to do to get a blowjob is to first perform oral sex on your partner. Dedicate some time to learning how to eat her out and she’ll be more than willing to return the favor.

Sex is a two-way street; you want to please her as much as she pleases you.

And aside from eating her out, you want to get her to Orgasm Street even with penetrative sex. Most dudes are selfish in the bedroom but please don’t be that guy.

This is why communication is key; you want to know her magic spots so you can please her. Getting a ‘yes’ to your request will be easier.

#5. Turn Her On 

This is my favorite method and it’s pretty simple. Look into her eyes, then focus on her lips. Bite your own lips and start groping your penis.

Trust me, she’ll know exactly what you want and may even go down on you right there. You want to do this sexily, though.

Bite your lips and touch your member with enough confidence that she gets turned on (and the trick here is to admire yourself while doing it).

Once she gets the memo, put your fingers in her mouth and express how wet and hungry it is for your cock.

#6. Massage Her Hair

Brushing her hair gently will disarm her and make getting a blowjob almost certain. The idea is to massage her hair to get her focus and signify what you want. It’s one of the most romantic ways to receive a head from your girlfriend or wife.

#7. Talk Dirty

“Baby, I’ve been picturing those sexy lips on my dick all day. Come and get daddy wet.” (Daddy is a debatable term, by the way.)

“I want your face between my legs.”

“I’ve been thinking about your lips, mouth, and throat since morning.”

“Slob on my knob like corn on the cob.” (Shout out to Juicy J.)

Dirty talk can be as mild or as wild as you want. As long as she’s into it, saying what you want with dirty talk is a surefire way to get an amazing blowjob.

#8. Compliment Her

Asking for another blowjob is easier after the first try. But to make sure she’s on board the next time, compliment her—even if the first experience was terrible. 

Most females are self-conscious about their blowjob skills but complimenting her will make her want to try again.

If the first try was really that bad, you can work together to make her a master. Encourage her to learn and don’t shame her for giving a shitty blowjob.

By complimenting her for trying and encouraging her to learn, she’ll be less self-conscious and calmer during your next session.

Final Thoughts

Now you know how to ask for a blowjob, so who are you asking? Your girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, or plus-one?

No matter who you ask, remember to keep it light and enjoy the moment. Oral sex should be a delight for all, so make sure you use these tips to have more fun.

Enjoy!